Modern dating can be challenging enough as it is, but getting to know someone while struggling with hearing loss can add an extra layer of difficulty. We’ve worked up five top tips for finding love with hearing loss.
Set a quiet, well-lit scene
Cinemas, crowded bars, and sports arenas may sound like fun first dates, but they’re full of unfun sounds. Plus, dim lighting may make lip reading nearly impossible. For your first few activities together, we’d suggest choosing more low-key meeting spaces such as coffee shops, well-lit lounge bars, or parks so conversation can flow naturally and uninterrupted.
Solidify your sound-free setting by showing up a bit early. That way, you can secure a quiet corner seat or sneakily ask the manager to turn down music/TVs if necessary.
Account for distance
For when you can’t be together in person, the world now offers numerous ways to stay in touch. However, some modern communications are better suited for hearing loss than others. Instead of the obvious phone call, we’d suggest Facetime or Skype to make reading body language and lips easier. Texts are a great alternative, too, but feel more impersonal.
Be honest to avoid awkwardness
While it doesn’t need to be your opening line, it’s important to make potential partners aware of hearing issues upfront. Aside from gauging their level of empathy, it could alleviate potential awkwardness as you get to know each other by keeping the “what?’s” and “can you repeat that?’s” to a minimum.
The most important rule of dating with or without hearing loss – enjoy yourself! Don’t sweat the small stuff – if you have to ask someone to repeat themselves or to move to a quieter space, a good date will understand and accommodate. Just go into it with a positive attitude and no pressure.